ENFJ's main interest in life is giving love, support, and a good time to other people. They are focused on understanding, supporting, and encouraging others. They make things happen for people, and get their best personal satisfaction from this.
ENFJ's are so externally focused that it's especially important for them to spend time alone. ENFJs tend to define their life's direction and priorities according to other people's needs, and may not be aware of their own needs.
Although they may have strongly-felt beliefs, they're likely to refrain from expressing them if doing so would interfere with bringing out the best in others. Because their strongest interest lies in being a catalyst of change in other people, they're likely to interact with others on their own level, in a chameleon-like manner, rather than as individuals.
ENFJs have definite values and opinions which they're able to express clearly and succinctly.
People love ENFJs. They are fun to be with, and truly understand and love people. They are typically very straight-forward and honest. Usually ENFJs exude a lot of self-confidence, and have a great amount of ability to do many different things. They are generally bright, full of potential, energetic and fast-paced. They are usually good at anything which captures their interest.
ENFJs have a strong need for close, intimate relationships, and will put forth a lot of effort in creating and maintaining these relationships. They're very loyal and trustworthy once involved in a relationship.
If they have not developed their Intuition, they may not be able to see possibilities, and will judge things too quickly based on established value systems or social rules, without really understanding the current situation.
To some extent, the ENFJ define themself by the closeness and authenticity of their personal relationships, and are therefore highly invested in the business of relationships.
They want responding affirmation from their relationships, although they have a problem asking for it. When a situation calls for it, the ENFJ will become very sharp and critical. After having made their point, they will return to their natural, warm selves. They may have a tendency to "smother" their loved ones, but are generally highly valued for their genuine warmth and caring natures.
They may be in the habit of constantly asking their partner how they're doing, what they're feeling, etc. This behavior may be a bit smothering, but it also supports a strong awareness of the health (or illness) of the relationship.
Although the ENFJ will probably not ask for it, they need to be given sweet words and loving affirmation. Since they are so externally focused on serving people, they do not always pay attention to their own needs.
You tend to be a bit hard on yourself. When there's a discrepancy between your own performance and your ideal behavior, you struggle against guilt feelings which other personality types can't fathom.
Taken together, intuition and feeling mold the idealist and truth-seeker, one whose main quest in life is directed toward achieving personal peace and integration. A goal for your personality type is acceptance, but more than that: acceptance as you really are - no mask, no pretense, no facade.
Relationships are a crucial focus for the EMPATHIST. You seek to understand others deeply and to have that understanding reciprocated with loving acceptance. You invest your total self - time, energy, patience and sensitivity - in relationships. You often are disappointed, for few understand your concept of knowing another, and fewer still are capable of achieving the kind of interpersonal connection you want.
Compassionate folks like you are rare in the world-about five percent of the population, by some estimates - so it isn't surprising that you may often find yourself toting a heavy emotional load for many people. Do you sometimes get the feeling that everyone cries on your shoulder?